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Marriage 101: Speaking of Sex

Trish Silver — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 19:55:56 +0000

There are a lot of things one can learn from the union of Aidan and Jenna Price. Sure, they’ve got a lot going for them. They’re young, extremely attractive, affluent, and sensually “awake.” But Aidan and Jenna have also begun a powerful foundation for their marriage through exploring sexual intimacy – which bonds them strongly together, and helps them to weather the future.

Both see the value of surprise, imagination and spontaneity in their sexual adventures. They love the delight of exploring each other’s bodies, and talking about what excites them, what brings them to the brink of ecstasy; and they enjoy the talk together throughout the acts of pleasing one another. Both are keenly engaged and invested in bringing the other to completion, whenever possible: trembling, or even screaming, satisfaction. And they have no strict rules on what words they use to love each other. Of course, this led to their having to install soundproofing in their bedroom, after their young daughter heard what she interpreted as sounds of pain coming from them, one night.

In earlier generations, people would classify one another through calling one kind of language “dirty” or “cheap” — and another kind–“decent” or “romantic.” But today, such classifications don’t hold much weight in reality. Whatever words suit both lovers can be just fine, and can enhance the arousal for either – giving a man a stronger erection, bringing a woman closer to a satisfying climax.

Aidan and Jenna, throughout their intimate contact, talk and caress each other with intense love and affection, regardless of what words come to them spontaneously, from “darlin’” to “whore.” And the location for love might be a concrete bench in their private shower, or the back of their car, at the ocean. The exploration of intimacy in a marriage helps form the glue that keeps two people together.

My Friend Ruchel

Trish Silver — Sat, 11 Jun 2011 16:47:04 +0000

Earlier in my blogging career I wrote about my friend-Ruchel. She will be enjoying her 93rd Birthday on June 15th, and I still can’t believe how fortunate I am to have her in my life. She has taught me so much about living and how I want to survive in my later years. We play Shanghai Rummy as often as we can. Unfortunately, I have a busy schedule and she lives about 40 minutes from me in Pasadena. I just saw her last week, and we have a lot of fun when we’re together. However, Ruchel, is very serious about her card games, so it’s all l business until we take a break for dinner, or when I shuffle between games. The only thing that I’m noticing is that her hands are not working as well as she would like. She has severe arthritis and is hard of hearing, but doesn’t even wear glasses! If a card falls on the floor, she is the first one to dive for it! It’s amazing to me the vitality she still possesses. We talk about many things, and she can sense when something is wrong, or I have had a bad week. Her insight astounds me and I just love our time together. Every time I leave, she says, I hope I’ll be alive to see you next time. I tell her don’t be silly and please don’t talk like that again! I often think about her leaving me and it upsets me. I’m her girlfriend in the truest sense of the word. We talk openly and freely about my life and hers. She gives me advice and I listen attentively. What will I do when she’s no longer around to nurture me with her wisdom? I think a part of my heart will die with her. So, today, I’m celebrating my friend Ruchel’s Birthday a bit early. She’s going to Boston next weekend for a family gathering, and she told me the exact dates when she will leave and come back. I bought her chocolate at the market before I arrived last week. It was a bag of Hersey Kisses, and she was extremely grateful. She kept saying, my friend Trish bought me these chocolates. We giggle like school girls.

Happy Birthday Ruchel, you’re an amazing woman and I truly love you!

Technical Difficulties

Trish Silver — Tue, 17 May 2011 14:41:24 +0000

Over the last few days you may have seen the site down, please don’t panic. I am still here! Due to some technical difficulties, the site found itself in a flux and is now back up and running. You may also see a few of the blog entries post twice to feeds. This is just part of the restoration process.

Now that everything is back to normal… On with the show!

Marriage #101

Trish Silver — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 14:04:07 +0000

I decided to begin a new blog series about love, commitment and sex in the holy union called marriage. When I wrote When I Remember Love, it was very important for me to write about a couple who were deeply in love and devoted to each other. Jenna and Aidan came to me in a dream and that illusion began my career as a writer. This inspirational couple has taught me about trust, commitment and unconditional love. Even in the face of adversity their vows to each other never wavered and their romance was always kept alive by one another. I did my research for this book and interviewed many married couples to find out what was their secret to a happy successful union. In this blog series, I hope that you will be inspired to keep the passion and trust alive in your relationship. This is not an easy task and requires great dedication and effort on the part of both spouses.

Does the honeymoon really have to end?

Infuse romance into your everyday life by simply showing each other that you care. Calling each other pet names like Baby, Boo-boo, Honey, Sweetie and Darlin is a great way to have your very own communication. Make time each day for real conversations and not just about the bills or discussing the children. Kiss and hug each other often. Leave little love quotes on his/her pillow like, “Love conquers all things; let us too surrender to Love.” ~Virgil. Fight clean, everyone bickers. In any long-term relationship, both people need to air their differences productively. Very often arguments result into proving your right is extremely overrated and both need to resolve their disputes in a civilized manner. A tender touch of the hand or a wink of the eye can end the argument easily. Apologies if warranted are very well received too. Please don’t ever go to bed mad…it’s not healthy, and if you have to give in and apologize, so what.

Stay tuned for the next blog about keeping the flame alive and enjoying great sex!

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Trish Silver — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 04:22:25 +0000

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Happy New Year from Trish Silver

Trish Silver — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 18:27:44 +0000

I know that I haven’t blogged recently and please forgive me. First of all, I want to wish everyone a healthy and happy 2010. This year will be special, I can feel it. Please take the time to pray that the people of Haiti will come back from this horrific tragedy and give what you can monetarily. We’re an incredible giving country. I’m proud to be a citizen of this great nation.

I want to thank Lynne Berger, a talented writer that I have admired for ages, for her heartfelt review of my novel. When I started to write “When I Remember Love,” I never thought that the book would ever be finished, much less entertain and impact so many people’s lives. I feel blessed that God gave me the talent to use my voice through my writing. Please read Lynne’s review that I have posted below, and I want to thank her from the bottom of my heart.

“WHEN I REMEMBER LOVE,’ A NOVEL BY TRISH SILVER

This is an exciting romantic novel, by Trish Silver, a fabulous
new author who weaves an endearing and timeless love story. Ms. Silver
is an insider in the entertainment business, and she offers an
insightful look at what life is truly like for a reality singing superstar
after the final performance. Despite the trials of fame, fortune and
personal tragedy, the story embodies a truth that reaches the hearts
and souls of readers because in the final analysis, love is all that
really matters.

Ms. Silver is a natural born story-teller whose unabashed look at
life is brilliant and insightful, and her story is a page turner
written with a note of magic as well as a dose of inspiration for
those contemplating a serious relationship.
She especially describes sex in marriage as a gift to be enjoyed
rather than something to be tolerated, taken for granted, or gotten
over with quickly. This delightful and entertaining story is written
with the honest intention of helping those who are considering
marriage. It is both hot and sexy as well as provocative and
intelligent. It also provides a thoughtful look at what’s necessary to
achieve true marital bliss. It could very well serve as a primer for
marriage, aptly entitled Marriage 101!

Lynne Berger is a journalist and free-lance writer, and the former
founder and director of The Enchanted Forest Children’s Theatre and
Learning Center in Tarzana, California.

Ignite the Magic Flame in Your Relationship

Trish Silver — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 23:33:26 +0000

One night I had a dream and that dream turned into a passionate love story, “When I Remember Love.” Actually, my central characters kept telling me their tale and guided me through my journey of writing their marital love affair. I felt that Jenna and Aidan channeled their love through my words. I’m humbled and honored that they chose me as their conduit. In high school I read the incredible novel, “Lady Chatterley’s Lover.” At the time it was published it was a controversial novel, but it became a classic. Apart from the wonderful, and by modern standards not at all outrageous, romantic/erotic aspect, this novel surprised me with its accurate and touching insight into protagonists’ minds as well as the social and political landscape of England’s post WWI era. It was an easy, fast and absolutely deep read. I loved it at the time and felt it was something special. I hope when people read “When I Remember Love,” they will experience the same enjoyment and feel it to be special.

I’m proud to present a review from a highly respected psychologist who understands the true essence of my novel. I thank her for her kind words.

When I Remember Love, is a beautifully written love story that reinforces the importance of keeping the flame alive in relationships through passionate yet tender, consistent and thoughtful lovemaking. This book focuses on and teaches couples how to connect with each other sexually and psychologically in magical ways that enhance and enrich the relationship. Aidan and Jenna are able to transcend inordinate amounts of life stressors because of their deep committed bond to each other. Their desire to make each other feel special enables them to deal unwavering with the challenges they endure. I recommend all couples read this book to learn how to continually ignite the magic in their relationships.

Recommended by Helen Grusd, Ph.D

Recommended by Helen Grusd, Ph.D