After the honeymoon is over, surprise your spouse and have a candlelight dinner for two. Afterwards, sit on his lap and start to kiss him. Kissing is the doorway to sex and the more passionate the kiss, the hotter sex you will have. Look him in the eyes; tell him you love him, and that you’re his dessert. Wearing a sexy short skirt and raising it up flirtatiously will show him that you’re not wearing panties. This little scenario is extremely sensual to a man. He will get the essence of what you’re conveying to him. Whisper into his ear what a great lover he is as you kiss his neck in that special place he loves.  Give him a shoulder massage, which will help him to relax.  Tell him how much you like foreplay and ask for a back rub. Show him you’re enjoying it with little shivers of excitement. He will get the idea that sexual stimulation is important to you and is gratifying for him too. Your sex life is about to ignite and catch on fire.

Tune in soon for the ultimate gratification!

“This is an exciting romantic novel, by Trish Silver, a fabulous
new author who weaves an endearing and timeless love story. ”

“WHEN I REMEMBER LOVE is a breathtaking display of enduring love through the strain of fame, personal tragedies, and conflicts. ”

“ It provides a thoughtful look at what’s necessary to
achieve true marital bliss. It could very well serve as a primer for marriage, aptly entitled Marriage 101!”

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FBI agent high up in the hierarchy blows the whistle and lets us in on what has really
been going on.

Keith David Henry: A Trilogy:  Architects of the Aquarian Age

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These are books that show us a different way to  think.

Michelel Montgomery: River of Tears, A woman’s struggle as she searches for her missing husband leads to shocking revelations about him, his family, and the crime of adult kidnapping.

Steven Nedelton: Crossroads, a thrilling, paranormal spy novel.  Prepare for a late night,
you won’t be able to put it down.

Sharon Cupp Pennington: Mangroves and Monsters,  a romantic mystery.

The  Promote Your Book page has been updated as it will be every month. There are authors with excellent tips as well as 13 links to use to market your books.  If you know any other authors or blogs to help us or marketing links, please email them to me at trish@trishsilver.com.  Finally anyone who was not selected for the January spotlight will be honored on the New Authors Links page.  December spotlighted authors will also be honored on this page.

Trish Silver provides a wonderful take on what life for a contestant
on a reality television show is like after the last performance. She gives a
remarkable view of the world beyond and how a star is born. The original
music that was made for the novel only adds to the magical ambiance that
Ms. Silver so marvelously crafts. This is a story for anyone who has ever
been in love or ever dreamed of finding the special person meant for them.

If any of you have exciting news like this, please comment here and let us all know.

Marti Rulli,  Goodbye Natalie, Goodbye Splendour: an investigation of
Natalie Woods death.

Chuck Weinblatt,  Jacob’s Courage: a love story set in the time of the Holocaust.

Julie Achterhoff,  Quantum Earth: a paranormal look into the environmental disasters we are all facing.

Gunter Swoboda, Mountains of the Sea: an adventure in the South Seas set in the late 1700’s.

Lisa Lipkind Leibow,  Double Out and Back: an important novel about women who ride the emotional  roller coaster  of infertility treatments.

Please visit the  Spotlight on New Authors page.  Visit their websites and blogs.  I hope you will find a book or two to buy and enjoy.

Thanks to Mick Moore for the great job he did on the video.   Thanks to my publicist, Janis Friesler who found the contest and encouraged me to enter it.  Thanks to my song writing team, Alan DiCenzo and Judy Simpson for the beautiful background music.  Thank you,  Dick Wells for singing the song with your beautiful voice.

I have been under the weather for the past few days.  When this passes, I have a lot of blogs to write so stay tuned.

Trish

The  background music, “When I Remember Love”  is sung by Dick Wells,  and the video is
original as are all the songs. You can enjoy listening to these on my  website.  The music was composed by
Alan DiCenzo and the lyrics were written by Judy Simpson.   I am very grateful to have such
a talented song writing team.  The winners of the contest will be announced on October 27th.
October entries won’t be open until the 21st,  but you can go to the site, search for
“When I Remember Love” and comment about the video before then.   Hope you all will vote for book
trailer #2 next week.

Thank you in advance.

Trish
yougottareadvideos.blogspot.com

Tantric sex is all about brewing passion…to tempt, tease then thoroughly please.  It involves the man having total control of his body, trying many positions with his partner, special breathing techniques, and holding back his climax as long as he can to give his lover the ultimate sexual pleasure experience.  Some of these practices of course involve the woman’s efforts as well.

Jenna and Aidan are truly exceptional for a very young couple, in that they have the wisdom and passionate desire to bring each other pleasure, no matter the challenges they might face.  They worship each other’s mind, body, heart and spirit. Their mutual, incredible love has carried them far beyond mere love making, into the glorious realm of tantric sex.

With love as their teacher, they have instinctively initiated the traditional components of the tantric sex philosophy into their lifestyle.  Their love, trust and heartfelt desire to fulfill each other’s needs, and bring each other extreme pleasure, have together afforded them the opportunity to go far beyond mere genital pleasures, all the way to the realm of whole body orgasms not achieved by most couples, who instead simply settle for much less pleasure in their sex lives.

So Jenna and Aidan are not only remarkable in their consideration, respect and mutual love for one another, but as a natural result they have unknowingly incorporated the tantric sex experience into their lives, and thus have vastly enhanced their sexual pleasure.

Couples who have consciously studied and practiced tantric sex often claim that these ancient sexual techniques brought them much closer. They often make love for hours and hours, with ever more variety, spontaneity and passion, and their overall intimacy deepens considerably.  Ovid:  “In love there can be no haste.”

It’s true:  As the sexual connection with your lover deepens you desire to have sex more frequently too, and therefore, the quality of your love lives greatly improves in more ways than one.  The effects snowball, in the most beneficial possible ways.

On that note, my dear friend, Lynne Berger who is publishing a fantastic young adult novel, The Staggering Secret of Holly Stone Castle, presented me with a surprise gift – A writer’s Retreat —  at the distinctive, Riviera Oaks Resort in Ramona, California.  I never expected such a treat, as I was busy at work, at home, writing my second novel in the trilogy — The Price of Love.  I was thrilled, as a writer’s life is a very lonely life, and I appreciated the opportunity to be around another writer!

Talk about adventures!!!  It was one from the very beginning, when we unexpectantly made our way up a torturous and twisting mountain road (I get carsick easily) — in the dark of the night. The ride became increasingly daunting, and there was nothing to be seen, except more treacherous mountainous terrain.  There wasn’t even a place to pull over if one had an emergency.  It was frightening to say the least because we had no idea when or where the road would lead us.

Aha!  Suddenly our wish was granted.   Our scary e-ride surprisingly came to a halt bringing us to a well-lit and normal-looking structure.  Out of the blue, we stumbled upon The San Vicente Inn featuring a fine restaurant called The Oaks Grill.  We greeted the receptionist, a wonderful young woman, named Stacey.  She assured us that everyone traveling that road at night feels exactly the same way.  We looked at each other relieved. Starting with Jordan, the hostess, and Ana, the waitress we proceeded to have the best fried chicken I’ve ever tasted. My husband,  Ed, would have been in seventh heaven!

The oasis in the desert continued, as we traveled up dark, ominous, unfamiliar territory to the secluded Riviera Oaks Resort. Martha, the security guard was wonderful, taking pity on two neurotic writers who were not only exhausted but traumatized!

Today, I have tabled my intent to write a Tantric Sex help article (which Jenna and Aidan practice daily in my book) in favor of a visit to the Barona Casino. Mind you, I have a serious gambling problem, but Lynne has a frugal streak and will yank my arm out of the casino if I lose over twenty dollars.  Good luck. Lynne!

The trick is to enjoy each and every day that we occupy this planet, and to live each moment with vim, vigor, friendship and love. I know my publicist and Webmaster Janis will not find this article relevant to my book, however, I think that my readers should know me as a person and not only what I write.

Blogging is becoming more interesting every day. . . Writer’s take note: You too should visit Ramona, California for a mystical experience!!

When the characters in my book came to me in a dream and I started to write my great American romance  novel, I never thought that I would publish it. Well… with much perseverance and sweat, blood and tears, I actually did finished it. It took me four years because of many obstacles (that I will divulge in a later blog). I had twelve readers to start out with and they all gave me honest criticism as I finished each chapter. A writer needs  input and they validated me and my talent. Most of my readers thought it was an exceptional work of art and a couple readers thought that it needed more conflict between my two main characters. I pondered the thought, but as the story unfolded I knew that I didn’t want to demean their love and so I wrote it my way. I dared to write a “love story” between two married altruistic people with a hot sex life. Writing those sexual scenes and keeping them fresh was not easy, but extremely necessary and my characters guided me through it (thank you Jenna and Aidan).

I became a new unknown energized author and sent out a few query letters to agents. They always were kind and wrote me back that although the premise of my story was interesting, they had too many authors at the present time.

I went to The Romance Writer’s of America Conference in San Francisco with a finish manuscript and a lot of enthusiasm. The first and last agent I talked to loved my presentation, but wanted to cut my novel down from 127,000 words to 90,000 (the standard for the industry). I was horrified and said no thank you. She looked at me like I was insane, shaking her head from side to side in shock. She assured me that her editor would do a great job with the revisions. I, in turn, said that I wasn’t interested. I had a songwriting team to think about, and I suspected  from speaking to this nice agent that my rights would be taken away forever.

I knew  it was the beginning of the recession, but I was savvy and almost from the inception saw the writing on the wall. I would most likely self- publish and as agents told me politely I would be shooting myself in the foot. Ouch!! I knew that it would be expensive, but somehow I would find the money and promote the book myself.

I studied self-publishing and here is what I learned:

FAMOUS SELF-PUBLISHED BOOKS:

Remembrance of things Past, by Marcel Proust

Ulysses, by James Joyce

The Adventures of Peter Rabbit, by Beatrix Potter

A Time to Kill, by John Grisham

The Wealthy Barber, by David Chilton

The Bridges of Madison County

What Color is Your Parachute

In Search of Excellence by Tom Peters

The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield

The Elements of Style by William Strunk, Jr. (and his student E. B. White)

The Joy of Cooking

When I Am an Old Woman I Shall Wear Purple

Life’s Little Instruction Book

Robert’s Rules of Order

OTHER FAMOUS AUTHORS WHO SELF-PUBLISHED

Deepak Chopra

Gertrude Stein

Zane Grey

Upton Sinclair

Carl Sandburg

Ezra Pound

Mark Twain

Edgar Rice Burroughs

Stephen Crane

Bernard Shaw

Anais Nin

Thomas Paine

Virginia Wolff

e.e. Cummings

Edgar Allen Poe

Rudyard Kipling

Henry David Thoreau

Benjamin Franklin

Walt Whitman

Alexandre Dumas

William E.B. DuBois

Beatrix Potter

(Thanks to Dan Poynter’s website for this info; see www.parapublishing.com)

REJECTED BY PUBLISHERS

Pearl S. Buck – The Good Earth – 14 times

Norman Mailer – The Naked and the Dead – 12 times

Patrick Dennis- Auntie Mame – 15 times

George Orwell – Animal Farm

Richard Bach – Jonathan Livingston Seagull – 20 times

Joseph Heller -  Catch-22 – 22  times (!)

Mary Higgins Clark – first short story – 40 times

Alex Haley – before Roots – 200 rejections

Robert Persig – Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance – 121 times

John Grisham – A Time to Kill – 15 publishers and 30 agents (he ended up publishing it himself)

Chicken Soup for the Soul – 33 times

Dr. Seuss – 24 times

Louis L’Amour – 200 rejections

Jack London – 600 before his first story

John Creasy – 774 rejections before selling his first story.  He went on to write 564 books, using fourteen names.

Jerzy Kosinski – 13 agents and 14 publishers rejected his best-selling novel when he submitted it under a different name, including Random House, which had originally published it.

Diary of Anne Frank

Stephen King’s first four novels were rejected. This guy from Maine sent in this novel over the transom,
said Bill Thompson, his former editor at Doubleday. Mr. Thompson, sensing something there, asked to see subsequent novels, but still rejected the next three. However, King withstood the rejection, and Mr. Thompson finally bought the fifth novel, despite his colleague’s lack of enthusiasm, for $2,500. It was called Carrie.

During his entire lifetime, Herman Melville’s timeless classic, Moby Dick, sold only 3,715 copies.

(thanks to Barbara Florio Graham, and her website,  www.simonteakettle.com)

Not bad company for a new author who is getting “Great” reviews!

I then studied traditional publishing:

Authors’ advances were being slashed radically as a result of the slump. Together with the canceling of contracts because a delivered manuscript was ‘not good enough’ or is behind schedule, this is all part of publishers’ trying to do something to cut their expenses. The cutting of publishing lists to trim down savings in books has been the foremost feature of the recession to date, so far authors are worried, with an ensuing sadness over the mid list. Bright new writers are experiencing greater difficulty than ever before in getting their books taken on by a publisher. Now figures are emerging that even premier authors are having their advances disappear.

Self-publishing was the path I choose.

The romance genre, of which I write is doing very nicely, thank you, in spite of the recession. I hired a publicist, marketing coach, and a Web master. We are all learning to work together as a “team”, but I am confident that we will succeed. It’s not an easy road,
but I have a passion and that passion is to have my voice be heard.

Trish Silver

Author of  When I Remember Love
www.trishsilver.com

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