In my novel, I profile a homeless woman. I have always had a deep fondness for people less fortunate than myself. We live in the land of plenty, yet still have innocent children living on the streets. This is a horror story in the making. There are little provisions provided for these children, and it’s a poor reflection of our country as a free nation. Homelessness with children involved is increasing at an alarming rate.
Because of the economy people are losing their jobs, homes and 70% of them have been living paycheck to paycheck. They find themselves on the street and in some cases; they become vagrants, which in most cases classifies them as criminals. For many homeless people, this life consists of waiting in lines at food banks, occasional arrests, periodic harassing and finding a clean place to sleep that won’t put them in harm’s way. It’s an appalling life that one cannot fully understand, unless put in that situation.
I want to be a special voice for the homeless and someday be able (through charitable contributions and book sales) to open up homeless sanctuaries around the country that will teach these poor souls a new vocation, spiritual guidance and counseling. A drug free environment is crucial and the schooling for these children is mandatory at a local public school. All school clothes and supplies will be new and given to the children to increase self-esteem. They will be able to stay in the facility for eighteen months while they build their self-esteem and self-confidence with the help of psychological counseling. After the allotted time, they will be given money to start their new lives and the sanctuary will find them employment. Would you join me in my quest to end homelessness in America and be a voice of motivation for these unfortunate individuals?
Over the last few days you may have seen the site down, please don’t panic. I am still here! Due to some technical difficulties, the site found itself in a flux and is now back up and running. You may also see a few of the blog entries post twice to feeds. This is just part of the restoration process.
Now that everything is back to normal… On with the show!
I struggled with writing this blog, but after thinking long and hard… decided to write it any ways. My fan, which shall remain nameless, told me her story and asked me to write about her plight, so everyone could understand how affairs do happen.
She was in a long term marriage with a man she loved, but the sex just wasn’t good anymore and was few and far between. She had a high sex drive and practiced self-love. One day she met a man, and they had lunch together. He was younger than her, but she was very attractive and always had a way with men. They saw each other for six months before anything happened sexually. He suggested it and she always remembered her marriage vows and rejected him. He was wealthy, gorgeous and began falling in love with her. He had lost his wife to cancer five years prior to their meeting. He found a place in her heart, and they started a tumultuous affair. It was exciting and fantastically fulfilling sexually for both at first, but it didn’t last long. Reality set in and he became jealous of her husband and her time away from him. She felt conflicted and exceedingly guilt ridden. He pressured her to make a choice between him and her husband. He wanted a life with her, and she wanted an affair. In her mind, there was never any intention of her leaving her husband, but she began to fall in love with him. It was an awful triangle filled with deceit and anger. She went away with him for a couple of days and had a wonderful time. He wanted her to do it every week if possible. Their sex life was wonderful; they fulfilled each other needs and were exceptionally compatible in bed.
Sex is a beautiful thing, and it’s also like an addictive drug. They became careless and he wanted her daily. She became his drug of choice and when he saw her sometimes there were no words exchanged just stares, kisses and rough sex. They were crossing the line into another world. He became obsessed with her.
One day he sent her a text in the morning and told her she had to make a choice. She wrote him “goodbye.” He called her and they argued. She started to cry and told him he was ruining her life.
“But… I love you,” he would say.
And she would tell him it was not enough.
The stalking began and she had to get a third party involved. Affairs rarely turn out well. They’re deceitful and dangerous, because they were both playing with the other’s heart. She just called me a few weeks ago to tell me it was completely over, but she does miss him, and she did love him. Legally, he can’t call her, and its better they go their separate ways. She’s trying to build a sexual relationship with her husband and started talking to him about it. I suggested they go to a sex therapist.
Their story is all too common in today’s world. The pressure on husbands to make a living in this economy is really taking a toll on marriages. It’s very important for couples to keep the doors of communication open. People learn by their mistakes, and I’m sure she learned a valuable lesson. So, when you think an affair is tempting, think again. It just might ruin your marriage and your life!
This was recently written and submitted to me by a reader and thought I would share it with the rest of my readers:
As a child, I grew up in a home where my mother had married and remarried four times. The broken home was an environment I found difficult to be in a great portion of the time resenting the men in my mother’s life so my grandparents took over where mom left off.
Grandma and Grandpa were older, quite a bit older. Normal grandparents are 20 years older than their children are and about 40 years older than their grandchildren are, but in this case I saw a 3rd generation gap of almost 60 years. My mother was adopted while they had just hit their 40’s and were already quite well established. She was their only child and I was their only granddaughter.
With the knowledge and passion of Grandparents that had seen the depression, seen hard work on farms and even overcome religious differences between families to elope marry themselves, their marriage was indeed quite the shocker to everyone. That is a story for another day.
I feel blessed that I had the old fashioned values instilled in me growing up with grandparents such as them. My grandfather was quite the hero to me and from their home I have a plaque that I look at every day in my home; Rules for a Happy Marriage.
1) Never both be angry at the same time.
2) Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
3) If one of you has to win an argument, let it be your mate.
4) If you have to criticize, do it lovingly.
5) Never ring up mistakes of the past.
6) Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
7) Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
8) At least once every day try to say one kind or complimentary thing to your life’s partner.
9) When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness.
10) It takes two to make a quarrel, and the one in the wrong is the one who does the most talking.
This plaque is a beautiful reminder that my grandparents had a marriage that surpassed 54 years and may they be jumping around and polkaing like they used to as kids in the afterlife.
I hope your readers enjoy this, as I live by it and therefore find … it works!
Many of us in our daily lives may have come across someone whose child has had some need for the services provided by “Locks of Love” and not even known it. Some of us might have known many that have unselfishly donated their own hair to help “Locks of Love.” Each of these instances has shown a passion to help others in the time of need. I decided I would read further about their cause and learn additional information regarding their foundation. What I found out was truly unique and amazing and thought I would like to share it with my readers.
Did you know?
- Those children (under21) lost their hair not just due to cancer but other medical conditions as well.
- They provide custom made prosthetics from donated real human hair can retail from $3,000-6,000 each. Only the wearer of these can remove them by a vacuum seal that is used to keep the prosthetic in place. Swimming, running, gymnastics are accomplished without fear of losing their self-confidence.
- All natural hair colors, perms and even gray hair are accepted for a donation. Gray hair is sometimes sold to help offset costs.
- Some of the top celebrities such as Russell Crow, Partia de Rossi, Katie Couric and Ann Curry have donated. Even an NHL athlete Scott Hartnell donated his hair.
- In Middleton, Ohio, a four-year-old grew his hair for three years despite the looks that others gave him and donated 13” of hair to the project.
- Some salons all over the country provide free haircuts to those donating to “Locks of Love.”
I had watched a documentary on the Health Channel months ago on “Locks of Love.” These prosthetics go through an amazing process of measuring, sorting, and hand sewing each hair follicle and then styling for the child’s face. These children may go through as many as 10-15 wigs over the course of their young years depending on their growth spurts, but I was touched by the care put into these and how the “Locks of Love” charity has provided in its services.