This was recently written and submitted to me by a reader and thought I would share it with the rest of my readers:
As a child, I grew up in a home where my mother had married and remarried four times. The broken home was an environment I found difficult to be in a great portion of the time resenting the men in my mother’s life so my grandparents took over where mom left off.
Grandma and Grandpa were older, quite a bit older. Normal grandparents are 20 years older than their children are and about 40 years older than their grandchildren are, but in this case I saw a 3rd generation gap of almost 60 years. My mother was adopted while they had just hit their 40’s and were already quite well established. She was their only child and I was their only granddaughter.
With the knowledge and passion of Grandparents that had seen the depression, seen hard work on farms and even overcome religious differences between families to elope marry themselves, their marriage was indeed quite the shocker to everyone. That is a story for another day.
I feel blessed that I had the old fashioned values instilled in me growing up with grandparents such as them. My grandfather was quite the hero to me and from their home I have a plaque that I look at every day in my home; Rules for a Happy Marriage.
1) Never both be angry at the same time.
2) Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
3) If one of you has to win an argument, let it be your mate.
4) If you have to criticize, do it lovingly.
5) Never ring up mistakes of the past.
6) Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
7) Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
8) At least once every day try to say one kind or complimentary thing to your life’s partner.
9) When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness.
10) It takes two to make a quarrel, and the one in the wrong is the one who does the most talking.
This plaque is a beautiful reminder that my grandparents had a marriage that surpassed 54 years and may they be jumping around and polkaing like they used to as kids in the afterlife.
I hope your readers enjoy this, as I live by it and therefore find … it works!